Tips for Asking Friends and Family for Job Search Help

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Asking family and friends for job search help is a great way to hear about job opportunities. Your friends and family care about you, and most of them will gladly help you in any way they can.

However, there are ways to reach out to friends and family that are more helpful than others. Read below for tips on how to network with family and friends, as well as examples of letters requesting job search help.

Tips for Asking Friends and Family for Job Search Help

The best way to reach out to family and friends is through an email or letter. Read below for advice on how to write the most effective letter.

  • Be specific. Your friends and family will be able to help you better if you tell them what you are looking for. Are you hoping for job leads? Informational interviews? New contacts? Let them know what you want so that they can help you.
  • Keep it short. Your letter should not be too long; your friends and family are busy and will be more likely to read a shorter letter or email. You might even use bullet points or a list to make it easier to read.
  • Attach your resume. You might attach a resume to your letter or email to provide more information to your friends and family. This will also allow you to keep your letter shorter.
  • Send some personalized letters. If you have particular friends or family who you would like to ask a specific favor – perhaps they work at a company you want to work for, or they have a contact you would like to meet – send them individualized letters. This will increase your chances that those people will respond to you.
  • Be patient. It’s hard to be patient when you’re job searching, but it’s important. Wait a couple of weeks or even a month before sending one short follow-up email. In this email, say you are still job searching, and would still appreciate the assistance. Avoid sounding frustrated or upset.
  • Be thankful. Individually thank every person who offers you help with your job search. Even if their advice was not particularly helpful, you would want to express your gratitude. Who knows when you will need their job advice again? It is important to remain kind and considerate. Also, remember to offer your help when someone you know needs a new job.

What to Include in Your Letter or Email

You will want to include a brief, friendly introduction to your family and friends.

After your introduction, explain that you are looking for a new job. Provide a very brief explanation of your background (a description of your last 1 – 3 jobs), your ideal job, and a list of 3 – 5 companies you would love to work for. You can include this information in paragraph form or in a list.

After this, explain what specifically you are looking for from your family and friends, whether it is alerts on job openings, informational interviews, or something else.

Conclude with a thank you to express your gratitude.

In your signature, include contact information; even if they are friend and family who know your contact information, it is still useful to include this.

Sample Letter Asking Friends and Family for Job Search Help

Dear friends and family,

I hope all is well! As many of you know, I have been working as a marketing assistant at XYZ Company in New York for the past four years.

I am currently looking to relocate to Washington, D.C., and am searching for a new mid-level marketing job in the city.

If you hear of any open positions in marketing (particularly within the nonprofit sector) or can think of any contacts you might be able to put me in touch with, I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you.

I've attached my resume; I'd appreciate any help you can offer.

Thank you all so much! I look forward to catching up with each of you soon.


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Sample Follow-up Letter Asking Friends and Family for Job Search Help

Dear friends and family,

I hope all is well! Thank you so much for all the leads and advice you have sent me so far as I look for a new marketing job in Washington, D.C. (specifically within the non-profit sector).

I just wanted to let you all know I am still looking for a job opportunity, so if you hear of any open positions, or can think of any contacts you might be able to put me in touch with, I'd greatly appreciate hearing about them.

I've attached my resume once more; I'd appreciate it if you could show it to any contacts you have in the industry.

Thank you again!


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Sample Personalized Letter Asking for Job Search Help

Dear Aunt Elizabeth,

I hope you are doing well! It was so nice to see you and Uncle Jim at the Christmas party last month.

As I believe my mom told you, after three years working for XYZ Marketing Company in New York, I am moving to Washington, D.C. I am currently looking for a mid-level job in marketing, specifically within the non-profit sector.

I remember you telling me that you are former colleagues of James McMartin of ABC Advertising Agency. Do you think you would be able to put us in touch? I would love to ask him for an informational interview. He is so experienced, and I’d love to hear his advice about the marketing industry in D.C.

Thank you so much in advance. Talk to you soon!


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